True equality in relationships

You can’t ask for what you’re not willing to give. A truly underrated part of modern day relationships is true equality. We all know that women have been over powered by men, but does that mean that the men today have to make up for this?

Yes. I know that the feminine was suppressed for thousands of years. Suppressed by the unhealthy masculine, seeking to over power and dominate, to destroy instead of create. I do see the suffering, I do see the past. But I also see the same mistakes made by men repeated by women today, supported by a social media narrative. 

We are simply going in the same loops. It’s not bad boys anymore, it’s bad girls. The rising feminist movement does take things out of balance. In the fight for equally, we sacrificed a lot of our femininity. We leave behind our soft, vulnerable and nurturing site in order to overrun the masculine with its own weapons – unhealthy masculinity. 

How does true equality in relationships look like?

Now the world, more than ever before, is overly masculine all the way. 

If he pays for dinner, can you buy him breakfast? 

If he gives you a massage, can you rub his feet after a long day at work? 

If he buys you a dress, can you buy him a suit? 

If he takes the kids for a day, can you go to work and vice versa? 

If he cries, can you hold him through it? 

If he shows up for you, can you show up for him? 

Are you willing to give up the princess to treat him like a king? 

Your divine goddess wants to respected and served? Can you respect, can you serve? 

You want a gentlemen? Can you be on yourself? 

You want to be treated like a queen? Don’t behave like a princess then. 

Equality comes with polarity

The key is here, girls: If we want to be truly empowered, if we want to be truly seen on one level with the other sex, we can’t just take the sweet stuff and drop the rest somewhere else. You want to be independent? That means not only working on your career and speaking your truth, but also to take on the stereotypical masculine role every once in a while and take HIM out for dinner.

It is about polarity. How can we work together to make this work really well? Certainly not with abandoning the feminine in order to over power the masculine with more masculine – we rise with duality. Internal and external duality, means, both of you have to balance their masculine and feminine within in order to fulfill their role in the relationship.

None of us can show up all the time. It’s not him treating you like a queen that makes the relationship work. It’s the work that makes the relationship work! 

Solution: Show up. Express your needs. Practice active listening. Hold space. Nurture your own inner polarities. Rise in self love. Support. Communicate. Work on yourself. 

Be your own queen so you can meet your king with mutual respect.